The Good Grinch Edition [Mollie's Monday Obsessions v.124]

Personal Sleep Update

Sleep Takeaways: Be a bit of a Grinch. :)

Client Sleep Case Study: 70s, Male, went from a weekly average low of 7 minutes of deep sleep to a high of 52 minutes this past week by adding in 4 new things:

  1. Chilipad, Ooler (cooling mattress pad)
  2. ChiliBlanket (weighted blanket)
  3. Qualia Night (supplement, no affiliation)
  4. Added Meat (he was vegetarian, and after some low iron levels, he added meat back into his diet a few weeks ago)

Important Callout: I know that I mention this a lot, but it’s crucial to note not to put too much stake into the sleep stages of hand/wrist sleep trackers. I share them because it’s probably one of the most asked questions, “How do I improve my Deep Sleep scores?” and from an overall trends perspective only.

Sleep Takeaways: Never stop experimenting!


Resource: Article, Psychology Today, The Dangers of “Sleep Machismo” Culture

After reading this article, I’m embarrassed to say that you definitely could call me Mollie Sleep Machismo for the better part of my life before I had insomnia. Until then, I honestly thought that it was mind-over-matter and that I just had to train my mind just to power through. I learned the hard way just how necessary sleep is, and I’m assuming that you agree if you’re on this newsletter.

The term “sleep machismo” refers to those who sleep less and so are deemed stronger and more masculine than those who obtain an adequate amount of rest each night. As if our society is not competitive enough, must we now compete against each other in regard to lack of sleep? The culture of “sleep machismo” normalizes and even glorifies sleep deprivation as a sign of mental strength, ambition, and dedication.

Resource: Article, The Atlantic, The Mysterious Link Between COVID-19 and Sleep

The primary takeaway with this article is that if you do not want to get COVID, you had better get to work on your sleep! Not just in the cliche, annoying ways. But take the time to teach yourself about the skillset of sleep and create a clear structure to get more of it.

One observation stood out: The virus could potentially be blocked by melatonin… in addition to melatonin’s well-known effects on sleep; it plays a part in calibrating the immune system. Essentially, it acts as a moderator to help keep our self-protective responses from going haywire—which happens to be the basic problem that can quickly turn a mild case of COVID-19 into a life-threatening scenario.

Resource: Article, Psychology Today, Eating Healthy and Sleeping Well

This topic is a big one if you want to get your sleep right. The health of your microbiome is critical to your sleep results and is not something that you can eat “healthy” for a few days, get frustrated, and go back to your old ways. A commitment over the long-haul to get the results that we are looking for with our sleep.

Our microbiome is regulated by circadian rhythms. We know from scientific research that when circadian rhythms are disrupted, and sleep is irregular, the health and functioning of the microbiome suffer: we have more unhealthful microorganisms and fewer healthful ones. And recent research suggests that the timing of daily food consumption has effects on both the composition and functioning of the gut microbiome. Establishing regular times for eating, optimizing those times to align with your circadian biology (aka using your chronotype to set your daily eating schedule), and allowing sufficient time for the body to fast overnight (by not eating late at night and close to bedtime) may help you keep your gut stocked with more health-promoting bacteria.

Resource: New Book, Dear Gratitude: An Anthology

I shared with you all that I’ve done a nightly ritual of daily gratitude emails to friends and family for the last #2128 days. This new book written by the host of Gratitude Radio featured the story! Gratitude and sleep make excellent bedfellows (check out this study on the link between gratitude and sleep for more).


Resource: Summit, Join The (Free!) Coping With Trauma Summit on Dec 27-30!

I’ll be speaking about how sleep (& HRV!) is a required tool in your mental health management arsenal, not to mention overall wellbeing. It’s free to sign up and brings loads of presenters for those who struggle with long-time trauma or flare-ups with this
crazy year of ours.


Resource: Podcast Episode, The Sleep Is A Skill Podcast, 026: Julian Jagtenberg, Founder of Somnox, Welcome to The Future of Sleep: The World's First “Sleep Robot”

Julian Jagtenberg, Founder of Somnox, has created a robotic sleep to aid us in our nighttime struggles. Somnox was born from Julian’s desire to help his mother manage and overcome insomnia without the need for prescription medication. As an industrial design engineer, Julian is on a mission to develop soft robotics to contribute to health and well-being. In this episode of Sleep is A Skill, we discuss some of the science behind our breathing patterns, practice some new breathing techniques, and then connect the conversation back to the essence of all life. BREATH!



Julian shares his personal story of insomnia within his family


How he got inspired to prototype a sleep robot-like BIG HERO SIX


What his alternatives to sleep pills are for a more holistic approach to sleep


How unique our breathing patterns are and why?


Single, taken, or just stressed this sleep robot can help your insomnia problem


No, it’s not R2D2 from Star Wars, Julian shares what the robot is like


Mediation vs Breathwork: who wins?


Julian gives us some direct breathing exercise examples to relax and to also rejuvenate


How our breath is the very essence of life


Contrary to what you may believe we also need co2 to survive


Discusses the science and cellular processes behind breathing


His favorite suggested resources

As always, please send me your thoughts on this week’s obsession or your current fascinations.


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Naked and Unafraid to Exercise in Virtual Reality

Where Peloton or Mirror might offer ongoing streams of new classes, though, they are fixed physical platforms; VR fitness differentiates itself in letting users step outside the existing reality paradigm.

Naked and Unafraid to Exercise in Virtual Reality

Where Peloton or Mirror might offer ongoing streams of new classes, though, they are fixed physical platforms; VR fitness differentiates itself in letting users step outside the existing reality paradigm.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Dr. Killen’s story and how her work transforms the conversation around sleep
  • Biohacking your rhythm with increased sexual activity
  • Different methods to improve your mouth taping
  • Current research on different forms of pleasure before sleep and their effectiveness
  • The relationship between one’s sex life and depression/anxiety
  • Myth or fact: people should ejaculate less as they get older

Sleep Is A Skill Podcast

022: Dr. Casey Means, CMO & Co-founder Levels Health, How a continuous glucose monitor is key to improving your sleep & wakeups!

Few things are as impactful for my client's sleep, health, and mental health as balancing their blood sugar! That's why I encourage as many clients as possible to wear a continuous glucose monitor (even if only for 1 month) to get at the source of the 'WHAT' and the 'WHEN' about their diet that is throwing off their sleep and their health.

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